My new boyfriend has opened my eyes to an entire new world I was unaware of. A world which I have come to realize is much much bigger and widely accepted then I could have ever known. This world is known as BDSM... is a compound acronym derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission (D&s, D/s, or Ds), sadism and massachism (S&M, S/M, or SM). The first time I looked into this, I was a bit scared to be honest. To me this has always meant pain. But I am here to tell you how very wrong every idea I had was.
To be in a relationship and be involved in BDSM you have to have 100% trust in your partner I have learned. I think this is something that most people try so hard to find. You have to know that it is role play, that you can be a little forceful but not too rough or mean. You have to know your limits and also know your partners and trust that they will respect yours. If you can get to this point your sex life can become wonderfully kinky in a way you never knew.
Just b/c people partake in this type of sexual behavior doesnt mean that they do it all the time. This doesnt mean that every time they have sex they are being tied up and dominated. Its just like anyone else, you mix it up. If you dont mix it up things can get very boring. Having this amount of trust in your partner means you can always openly express your fantasies no matter how shy you are and know that they will accept them and be willing to do whatever they can to make them become reality.
-Nell
